If I had been in the van that day sitting where Julie was...
If Betsy had been thrown from the vehicle...
If Aaron had been wearing his seatbelt...
As Betsie ten Boom, who gave her life in a Nazi concentration camp, reminded her sister Corrie, "There are no 'if's' in God's world. And no places that are safer than other places" (The Hiding Place by Corrie ten Boom with John and Elizabeth Sherrill).
Though I start many thoughts with "if" I try not to finish them. Instead I trust my family to the God who cares more about them than I do.